Come and go...

I knew that something like this will eventually happen... it always happens... it's called a circle of life...

Friends... you are soooo close one day, and eventually at one point.. we make our own paths... we reduce the amount of time we communicate with each other, see each other and keep in touch with each other...

It usually happens when there's a start of a career or a relationship... all goes haywire... the promise of friends forever or being there for each other when one is in need, often fades away with time.

Often we see, and I myself experience.. and am experiencing, is that we expect the other person to initiate the 1st move, to ask how that other person is, to see that person. If that person doesn't make the 1st move, neither do we... and in the end, nobody initiate's anything. That's when the bond loosens up.

There are those, that because of the start of a new career or relationship, they are surrounded by influences that they somehow adapt to, that the other friends can't accept or relate to.. then there's the "You've changed" issue... and again, the bond loosens...

I am lucky that in some ways, I am independent and am used to things like this, of people coming and going, some taking years... some, even days... I don't sulk on it too much... A lot of emotional turmoil and the feeling of loneliness looms over you at 1st.. then it slowly fades away and you move on with your life, getting to know other people, making new acquaintances and friends and love.

However, those who stay from the very start, are those that we should keep close... those are the ones, that even when the bond is not as tight, somehow, someway, that person or that group of people are the ones who really support you and is there for you, silently if not soundly.

It's a way of life... it's a circle of live... of the survival through it all... of weighing good and bad, right and wrong, being strong or being weak... in the end, it is all up to ourselves in how we are to manage this circle... be it a perfect circle... or a distorted one...